As I read through some of our authors’ comments tday I am struck by the variety of views and sentiments experssed. I think we all believe in and love romance but exactly how we visualize romantic is as diverse as we are!
It can be the puppy love first shy kiss by the boy or girl you knew in school and had a crush on when you were maybe six or twelve of fifteen! It can be the heady delight of falling in love and learning the physical expressions of it when you are a few years older. It can be that moment of looking at your first child as he or she takes its first breath and knowing your love made this new person and the struggle to give birth was worth it. It can be an old couple sitting side by side in their rockers on the front porch and sharing a half-century’s bond, so deep and close that words are unnecessary.
There is no doubt that love makes the world go round for most of us–and in truth love comes in many forms. We may be celebrating the mating kind of love today and most of our books do this as well but love can take many shapes and hues. Love between siblings or parents and chidren, love between friends of either the same or opposite sexes, love to and from the furred members of our family that bring so much to our lives… I gotta admit, I am head over heels in love with love! Since we are here and since we are romance fiction fans or creators, I expect that pretty much describes us all!
What do you think and feel about it? Do you agree?
I say, “Long live Love, the One True Thing!”
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Lisa A. Vance
13 years agoOver the years my idea of romance has changed. When I was young, there was nothing like instant attraction. The possibilities were endless. Would he… could he… be THE ONE?
Now that I am middle-aged I’m no longer intrigued by lust and desire for a stranger. I think true romance comes from being with and loving one man. To know that he knows everything about you, both good and bad, and still loves you. Sharing a knowing smile or laugh that no one else understands except the two of you. Having the same hopes and dreams and work towards getting them. It’s the ability to bear the disappointment and sorrow of another and feeling it as much as he does. How comforting it is to know that there is no place on this earth where you are safer.
Love making, when it’s new, can be exciting. But it takes years to know how to please someone. To know where, how and when they want to be touched. To be satisfied and happy just lying in his arms.
What could be better than to know his caress is meant for you alone?
Is there a better cheerleader for your successes? A friend and confidante willing to guide and advise you? A mate who’s always on your side, even when you’re wrong.
And as you age, there is a wondrous satisfaction in re-living the memories you made together. Watching the kids grow up and become people you’re both proud of.
Being divorced, I listen to my married friends complain about their husbands. It reminds me of the days when I too, thought there was a lot to regret. But now, I see where many of us went wrong. A marriage is a lot of work. Like a garden. Weeds grow and flowers wilt when they aren’t cared for. Many young couples expect their gardens to be maintenance free, or think they just don’t have the time to tend to them.
Perhaps someday I will find a man that I wouldn’t want to live without. Whose hand I’d want to be holding if he was dying. Where I’d finally realize that all the tears and heartache of missing him were worth the time we spent together.
I also know that day may never come. I’ll be fine and content myself with watching my children forge lives for themselves and delight in witnessing my grandkids grow. But… it would be so nice to be doing those things with a man whose heart was one with mine.
For all the irritating things associated with love and romance, I don’t believe that life can be totally enjoyed alone. A sunset is pretty, but it’s beautiful watching it in the arms of your love.
Yes, there’s no substitution for romance. It’s a blank canvas which turns into a stunning masterpiece, lovingly painted over a life time. Share one if you’re lucky enough to have the chance!
Cindy L
13 years agoWhere would we be without love? It doesn’t have to be the love of a SO…just love in general! There is nothing that makes my heart happier than when my boys tell me that they love me. My hubby not only tells me he loves me everyday, but in the little things that he does for me. Just a simple gesture shows that he cares. Without the love of my family and friends I wouldn’t have been able to get through some difficult times in my life.